To do or not to do?

As some of you know I've tried the online dating scene and had little success... I have horror stories, I've made mistakes, and I've made a few friends a long the way (well one friend) but no success at love. 

Recently I've contemplated trying it again and giving it a second shot, but I've been working through pros and cons on whether or not it's worth it. 

Pros

Several people I've talked to agree that it helps ease the stress of meeting someone when your super busy. 

You have the ability to talk with someone online and sorta weed out if there is attraction or not before meeting them rather than wasting a lot of time. 

There is the potential to actually find love. Both of my roommates found their significant others through online dating and will both get married to those guys. 

Cons

There is always a fear of not being able to know the intentions of the other person. 

Catfish... It happens! 

There is always the struggle of being able to show who you completely are behind the comfort of a computer. We like to build ourselves up. It's not terrible, but when our flaws show, people aren't ready for that. 

So as you can see I have a lot to think about. Put my heart on the line again or just wait things out? 

To do or not to do? 

Conversations with Jenee: It's Valentines... Again.

It's Valentine's season again. And I've been thinking a lot about expectations. A lot of times I hear people say that girls are picky. We place a lot of expectations on guys and sometimes hinder ourselves from actually being in a relationship. So I wanted to see if guys actually had expectations they placed on girls and how they influence the way guys choose girls. So I went around asking all the guys I know and they gave me a list of deal breakers (yikes) and must-haves (yay) in a potential significant other.

Deal Breakers

• smoking
• shallow
• superficial
• materialistic
• baggage (i.e. kids)
• short-fused
• dirty
• jealous
• cheating
• dumb/stupid
• financial woes
• still in contact with your ex's
• bad kissers
• can't be friends with your friends
• alcoholic
• can't take care of herself
•  has terrible hygiene/cleanliness/ isn't put together

Must Haves

• adventurous
• fun to be around and with
• pretty
• career/goal-oriented
• intelligent
• is good at communicating
• personable
• animal-lover
• confident
• independent
• financially stable
• has teeth and pretty teeth
• jokes around
• low maintenance
• wants kids
• sense of fashion
• willing to try new things
• has self respect
• someone that can be taken home to mom

I don't think it's a matter of having a list of deal-breakers and must-haves that we check and uncheck that ultimately finds us the right person. It's taking a step back and realizing what's important in life and finding someone who we want to share the important stuff that happens in our lives.

Happy Valentine's Day :)