It's Valentine's season again. And I've been thinking a lot about expectations. A lot of times I hear people say that girls are picky. We place a lot of expectations on guys and sometimes hinder ourselves from actually being in a relationship. So I wanted to see if guys actually had expectations they placed on girls and how they influence the way guys choose girls. So I went around asking all the guys I know and they gave me a list of deal breakers (yikes) and must-haves (yay) in a potential significant other.
Deal Breakers
- smoking
- shallow
- superficial
- materialistic
- baggage (i.e. kids)
- short-fused
- dirty
- jealous
- cheating
- dumb/stupid
- financial woes
- still in contact with your ex's
- bad kissers
- can't be friends with your friends
- alcoholic
- can't take care of herself
- has terrible hygiene/cleanliness/ isn't put together
Must Haves
- adventurous
- fun to be around and with
- pretty
- career/goal-oriented
- intelligent
- is good at communicating
- personable
- animal-lover
- confident
- independent
- financially stable
- has teeth and pretty teeth
- jokes around
- low maintenance
- wants kids
- sense of fashion
- willing to try new things
- has self respect
- someone that can be taken home to mom
I don't think it's a matter of having a list of deal-breakers and must-haves that we check and uncheck that ultimately finds us the right person. It's taking a step back and realizing what's important in life and finding someone who we want to share the important stuff that happens in our lives.
Happy Valentine's Day :)
