Sooooo....... If you know me, you all know that I was watching the Bachelor last night. And you also know that I WAS HIGHLY UPSET!!! So yes Mr. Jake, the man who was so sweet and just so cute and lovable, ends up picking Vienna (Muffin!!!!!). Definitely not my pick but I guess he saw something in her. So that got me to thinking. If a future mate is in the cards for me, then what do I want in them? This show has a man or woman on it; they go on this show with these ideas about who they want and they sift through 20 or so people to find their potential mate. But through the process that person changes and their beliefs and values potentially change (which is what I believe happened this season) which could lead them to choose someone who they necessarily wouldn't have chosen in the beginning. But that's tv!!! Let's talk real life!! So I'm 20!! Sophomore in College!! So that means I got two years to get my life together before it's real world time (I don't think mama's going to let me live with her forever). I know friends who are getting married and are only two years older than me. I know girls who are only a year or so older than me who are in serious relationships who are dating their boyfriends now to potentially marry them. So if this is the time for me to be thinking about those types of things then I need to be ready and to know what I want in a mate. I don't want to be like Jake who gets all conflicted in the end because he lets "physical" stuff get in the way of making a choice in the end. I want to know! So what is it that I would be looking for in my mate? Do I just want a smart, handsome, funny guy who loves music? NO! The women in my family haven't had the greatest luck with finding mates (sorry!!!) but it's so true and one of the many things my mom has told me is to pray pray pray for the man you want. And be specific!!! God says ask and He will listen. The worst that could happen is that He says no to some of the things you ask for but maybe it was for a good reason in the first place. So why not come up with a list of good qualities in a man that you want and ask for them!! Lets see hmmmm believer, loves Jesus, is honest, is faithful, is smart, funny, cute, plays piano, likes music.....
Comments Welcomed :)
So with you sweetheart! (but you knew that!)
ReplyDeleteI always have to think of this saying "One day you will meet someone and realize why it never worked out with anyone else"
(or why you never even considered someone else as the case may be)I kind of like to believe that... One day! :)
haha also, let me get this straight, playing piano is a MUST? haha uhh but piano players (or musicians/artists in general) are such difficult people! very particular haha
Anyway, there's no reason why the right one for you wouldn't come along at some point. You're one of the sweetest people I know so anything else just wouldn't make sense :)
All I have to say is: Alex Lambert, 19, North Richland Hills, TX
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ReplyDelete1. Vienna is a def MUFFIN
2. Jenee I think that this is a very good blog, its important for us to think about what we want.
what freaks me out is.. what if we have already met the boy we will marry? werid right?
and i would like to Second melissas idea of Alex. the end.
love, Ella
Jenee'! I am so for the piano playin' scripture quotin' livermush eatin' man! Maybe we could find brothers? :)
ReplyDeleteFor real, I really love the part about being specific and not willing to change or compromise over the period of the relationship! Very thought provoking and truly a great thing to think on at our age.
Ok, so if a guy had all those qualities, except one, he still wouldn't have a chance? That's a bit odd. I'm not saying that you should settle on some of those things, most of them I agree with you on, except for a female of course. But things like funny, plays piano don't really matter to me. Except I may be being a bit hypocritical, I guess your guy has to be able to play the piano, and the woman for me has to be able to sing. :)
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